Abdication of Desires will control Anger.
the ancient texts emphasize that anger must be overcome; else it will destroy
us. "Expectations beyond reality" is the bane of all that happens. There
can be many reasons why those desires are left unfulfilled. Some are unfulfilled
due to natural limitations and the desires of others. It is difficult to expect
other people to perform actions exactly as we wish. Sometimes the desires are
such that they cannot be fulfilled without considering the circumstances. Ways
of life and behavior modifications are essential for a healthy physique, mind
and spirit. For this, devout practices, yogic exercises meditation and singing
holy verses make for a good life. When someone loses hope and his desires are
shattered he feels depressed. His heart is full of anger. He tries to punish that
person whom, he thinks, has offended him. He tried to blame someone else for his
own failures and disappointments. Expression of displeasure with anger or even
hurting is wrong. It shows the shortcoming in our judgment capacity. It means
dealing with someone else's offense and it means trying to punish someone else
for your shortcomings. It is unfair to show our displeasure to cure our failures.
Proper reaction in such a situation will show our understanding and compassion.
when one desires to have something and do not get it, they get upset and angry.
Attachment, desire and greed are the main cause of disappointment leading to get
upset and angry. They must be made to realize that it is not possible to get anything
and everything all the time. If one really wants to get something they should
learn to work for it and earn it and still one should realize that there are natural
forces beyond our control to get the fruit of our labor and the gift of our desires.
We can plant a seed but for the tree to grow and give you flowers or fruits is
determined by such natural forces that is beyond our control. Things that we possess
do get damaged and wear out in course of time and usages. Sometime due to minor
accidents caused by others some damages can occur. One should learn to be calm
and assess the situation and look for a solution as to what to do next. Other
people especially children will not follow our desires and instructions and do
things according to their own. Even if they do, they have their limitations according
to their knowledge and expertise. So in all these situations, getting upset and
angry is just a waste of one's own energy and that will hurt everyone. One can
express their displeasure but learn to be calm and quiet. Just we must remember:
where there is "anger" there is always "Danger";
it is just one letter away.
Preventing this rage is an effort to be taken by everyone.
one has to think seriously over what bad effects are produced by anger. Those
in high positions in life should learn how to get things done in a soft manner,
instead of showing off their superior position, power and managerial status. At
home, parents should not fight with each other in the presence of children. Children
should not be treated in a harsh manner in front of other people especially outsiders.
Scolding and comparing children to others leads to depression and anger. One should
change one's way of life to achieve this. One should retract for a minute or two,
before bursting out - "Take Two" as it is called. Similarly both family
members and colleagues in the work-place should not indulge in answering back
to show their distemper. Every member of the family must take all steps to ensure
that animosity has no place in day-to-day life. For everyone a balanced mind and
devout observances contribute towards peace of mind and body. In this respect,
our age-old traditions and teachings are of great help.
Spiritual Studies show the ways to control Anger.
Srimad Bhagavat Gita, Lord Krishna explains in Chapter II to Arjuna what anger
is. Specifically in two slokas, the Lord explains what anger is and its destructive
features. "When a person thinks of something emotionally, he develops an
attachment for it which creates a desire for it and that leads to anger if it
does not fructify." (Chap. II - Sloka 62). "Anger leads to a state of
blackout which makes for a comatose stage causing insensibility and results in
self-destruction" (Chap. II - Sloka 63). The third chapter of Bhagavat Gita
relating to Karma (Duty) is very necessary for our following. Whatever is done
should be done without anticipation of any benefit. All that we do form part of
our duty to God and if we derive any gain we should consider it as a blessing.
There are Tamil verses in Thirukkural to emphasize this: "The scar left by
a fire injury will disappear over a period of time but not the scar left by a
bad tongue". "Face your problems with a smile and they will disappear
on their own." "Using a harsh word to criticize someone is like using
an unripe fruit instead of a ripe one". Chapter 30 of Thukkural explains
the features of anger and acrimony (See Addenda). Several of our primeval cultural
practices, religious rituals and food habits associated with the Indian community
will do them all good for the mind and the body and will enable them to lead a
healthy life. Food items can calm the mind or stimulate and cause anxiety. Prayers
and meditation certainly will help us calm down and think properly. The greatest
thing in life is to find who you are and the second greatest thing is being happy
with what you find. Let us change our lifestyle in accordance with these and enjoy
a happy life.